Supporting Your Loved One Through Menopause

A Guide for Partners, Family, and Friends

Menopause is a profound transition that affects not just the person experiencing it, but everyone who cares about them. If someone you love is navigating their menopause journey, your support can make an enormous difference to their wellbeing and your relationship.

Understanding how to be truly supportive isn't always intuitive, but it's one of the most meaningful gifts you can offer. Here's how you can be there for your loved one during this important chapter.

Ways to Be Supportive

1. Educate Yourself

Take time to learn about menopause, its symptoms, and its impact. Understanding that hot flushes, mood changes, brain fog, and sleep disturbances are real physiological experiences will help you respond with empathy rather than frustration. Knowledge is the foundation of compassionate support.

2. Listen Without Trying to Fix

Sometimes the most powerful support is simply being present. Listen when they need to talk about how they're feeling without immediately jumping to solutions. Validate their experiences with phrases like "That sounds really difficult" or "I hear you" rather than minimising their symptoms.

3. Be Patient with Mood Changes

Hormonal fluctuations can cause irritability, anxiety, and emotional sensitivity. Remember that mood changes aren't personal attacks. Take a breath, remain calm, and recognise that your loved one is dealing with something beyond their control. Your steady presence matters enormously.

4. Help Create a Comfortable Environment

Practical adjustments can make a real difference. Keep the bedroom cool at night, have a fan available, ensure they have breathable clothing and bedding, and be understanding about sudden temperature needs. Small accommodations show you're paying attention and care about their comfort.

5. Share Household Responsibilities

Fatigue and brain fog can make everyday tasks feel overwhelming. Step up with housework, cooking, and planning without being asked. Taking tasks off their plate demonstrates tangible support and helps reduce their overall stress load.

6. Encourage Self-Care and Medical Support

Gently encourage them to prioritise their health, whether that's attending medical appointments, considering hormone replacement therapy, or making time for exercise and relaxation. Offer to accompany them to appointments if they'd find that helpful.

7. Maintain Intimacy and Connection

Physical and emotional intimacy may change during menopause. Be patient, communicate openly about needs and boundaries, and remember that intimacy extends beyond sex. Continue to show affection, appreciation, and desire in ways that feel comfortable for both of you.

8. Don't Make Assumptions or Jokes

Avoid attributing every emotion or disagreement to menopause, and never make jokes at their expense. Comments like "Are you having a hot flush?" or "Is this menopause talking?" are dismissive and hurtful. Treat them with the same respect you always have.

9. Check In Regularly

Ask how they're feeling and what they need. A simple "How are you managing today?" or "Is there anything I can do to help?" shows ongoing care. Be genuinely interested in their response and ready to adjust your support accordingly.

10. Celebrate This Chapter Together

Menopause isn't just about challenges—it can also bring freedom, wisdom, and new beginnings. Acknowledge the positive aspects and remind your loved one of their strength, resilience, and the life you're building together.

UK Resources to Help You Support

The Menopause Charity

Provides comprehensive information for both people experiencing menopause and those supporting them, including downloadable guides and factsheets.

Website: themenopausecharity.org

NHS Menopause Support

Official NHS guidance on menopause symptoms, treatments, and how to access support through your GP.

Website: nhs.uk/conditions/menopause

Menopause Matters

Independent website offering evidence-based information, forums, and practical advice for navigating menopause as a couple or family.

Website: menopausematters.co.uk

British Menopause Society

Professional organisation providing resources to help you understand treatment options and find specialist menopause care.

Website: thebms.org.uk

Henpicked: Menopause in the Workplace

Helpful resources if your loved one is managing menopause symptoms at work, including guidance for supporters.

Website: henpicked.net

Balance Menopause App

Dr Louise Newson's app offering symptom tracking, information, and support tools that you can explore together.

Website: balance-menopause.com

Remember: Your support, understanding, and love can transform the menopause experience from something endured alone to a journey navigated together. Every thoughtful gesture, every moment of patience, and every effort to understand makes a difference.

At Branch Forward, we believe in moving through life's transitions with support, dignity, and hope.